Mama Bear has the memory of an elephant

Have you ever had a run in with someone about your child? I have and I have a great kid so I'm sure everyone does at some point or another. I'm not sure everyone takes it as personally as I do. I'm almost pathological (not really, of course, and not to poke fun of the real nutters out there).

Something happened here in the fall where I spoke to someone about an incident my son was involved in and they went on to rat him out (and make him sound like an instigator when he wasn't). I'm around her often for work reasons and of course I'm friendly in that professional superficial way one can be without misrepresenting oneself. I do try to leave it in the past but honestly, when I look at her it just reminds me of that horrible day. I wish her all the best, it's not an evil or vindictive thing at all, I just feel like I've seen her true colours and they're not for me.

There was another such incident today. Well, a different sort of thing but nonetheless, there was a disagreement between me and someone about what to do about the G's adolescent approach to homework. The unfortunate thing is that she's someone I see a lot here and in some ways is my closest friend. Well, was.

I'm not sure how it will all shake down and if I will be able to spend time with her without remembering theawfulthingshedid. It's not something I can mind over matter, either. In this case, I'm not even sure I want to - again, I feel like I've seen someone's true colours and all I want to do is get as far away as I can. I'm super primal with this sort of thing: I can forgive a lot, but when something unforgivable happens, it's like a switch is thrown and the lights go out on the relationship.